San Diego Therapist Blog
Are You Coachable?
Therapy and coaching are not dissimilar—especially when it comes to marriage and family therapy. As I mention in the FAQ area of this website, I
That was a Doozy of an Argument: What now?
Repair. Having discussed John Gottman’s “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” in previous posts, I will conclude this series with Gottman’s recommendation for relationship repair. You
Stonewalling, a.k.a. The Silent Treatment: What’s going on?
When acute or chronic negativity is present in a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person, usually the husband, to start stonewalling. The person
The Best Predictor of Relationship Demise is…
…contempt.” Think of contempt as any statement to or gesture toward your partner that comes from a superior place–think of sarcasm, hostile humor, name-calling, and
It’s not my fault—it’s your fault!
Defensiveness is any way of warding off a perceived attack. Defensiveness involves counter attacks and whining (positioning oneself as an innocent victim). An at-risk (or
I am seeking love that my partner just can’t give.
The love you are seeking may be right there in front of you. Well-known marriage counselor Gary Chapman, PhD, has enriched the area of relationship