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About-face Your Career: Scary Sea Change or Easy Puddle Jump?

Posted by on July 18, 2012 in Career | 0 comments

About-face Your Career: Scary Sea Change or Easy Puddle Jump?

Having worked with clients in all stages and forms of relationship—including with a spouse, partner, child, parent, boss, employee—one of the most rewarding for me has been helping the client who is examining relationship with SELF. In particular, I find this relationship critical to successful career shifts and increased levels of self-confidence and self-esteem essential to overall happiness. Seth Godin, a well-known entrepreneur, author and public speaker is quoted as saying “Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you...

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Father’s Day: It’s Yours

Posted by on June 14, 2012 in Father's Day | 0 comments

Father’s Day: It’s Yours

If you are a Dad, you know you have many options – there are all kinds of fathers. For example, you might be a: Hard-charging corporate Dad with a full schedule, squeezing in valuable kid time whenever you can; Stay-at-home Dad attending to your kids’ daily emotional and physical needs and at times neglecting your own; Working Dad determined to leave work at 5:00 pm (or so) to ensure kids and wife feel just as important (if not more so) than work in terms of your mind-share and heart-share. But that’s not all. There are many options in...

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Male Menopause: Secret Source of Relationship Strife

Posted by on June 7, 2012 in Depression | 0 comments

Male Menopause: Secret Source of Relationship Strife

Within my marriage and family therapy practice here in San Diego, the ratio of male to female clients is around 2:1. One of the key insights I have gleaned in collaborating with male clients and their families to uncover personal solutions to relationship problems is the role physical health plays in the equation. One example of this can sometimes include the role of decreasing testosterone levels (a.k.a. male menopause; a.k.a. andropause) for male clients and the associated impact on their relational issues (whether at work, home, or...

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Addressing Anxiety (Getting to Maybe)

Posted by on May 30, 2012 in Anxiety, Depression | 0 comments

Addressing Anxiety (Getting to Maybe)

The good news: Not everyone who worries a lot has an anxiety disorder. You may be anxious because of an overly demanding schedule, lack of exercise or sleep, pressure at home or work, or even from too much coffee. We all experience anxiety at different times and for different reasons: a stressful work environment, a new baby, change in relationship status, a physical move or death of a loved one. Anxiety tells us that something in our environment is out of balance. Think: too much work, too little love, too many new people, too much...

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Sadness: Not Always a Bad Thing

Posted by on May 23, 2012 in Depression, Sadness | 0 comments

Sadness: Not Always a Bad Thing

You can’t read a newspaper or magazine without being advertised to about the terrible experience of sadness and the “freedom and joy” which can be found in a good anti-depressant.  Lest we lose site of the value of our natural selves: our feelings—all of them—exist to protect, nurture and guide us in our life experience. Yes, there are clinically relevant experiences of depression that should be treated with drugs and therapy in order to avoid unbearable misery or any chance of additional trauma-related stress or suicide (more on this later...

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Rough Day at the Office Followed by Stressful Evening at Home: What’s the Connection?

Posted by on May 16, 2012 in Work Stress | 0 comments

Rough Day at the Office Followed by Stressful Evening at Home: What’s the Connection?

When it comes to relationship busters, work stress is on the top of the short-list. Work stress does not directly correlate with your spouse—but it can have a significant and adverse affect on your relationship and overall feelings of connectedness. The vast majority of us experience work stress, including never-ending lists of deadlines and projects; difficult relationships at work; dissatisfaction with a job; or maybe even the demands that come with a changing industry. Often, we can successfully manage stressors at work in part by working...

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This Mother’s Day: Keep Your Eye on the Goal

Posted by on May 11, 2012 in Mothers | 0 comments

This Mother’s Day: Keep Your Eye on the Goal

Definition: “Being a mother is taking the time and energy to take care of another human being with the goal of ensuring that he/she grows up to be capable, caring, and confident.” For today, feel free to put down the parenting books. Put down any guilt you may carry about not being involved in the PTA; staying too late at the office; not taking your kids to the park that one time when you promised; letting them eat fast food after the soccer practice. “Being a mother is taking the time and energy to take care of another...

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My Kid is Being Bullied

Posted by on May 8, 2012 in Bullying, Featured | 0 comments

My Kid is Being Bullied

There is perhaps no worse feeling for a parent than the feeling that you are unable to protect your child. We expect school to be a place where our child is supported, nurtured, protected and afforded the opportunity to learn and grow. So if you feel your child is being bullied at school, you may feel violated on behalf of your child’s rights and your own expectations. Your immediate response may be outrage and anger, which is of course a normal reaction. After all, this is the child you are committed to love and protect and nurture. Beneath...

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I Can’t Stop Texting

Posted by on May 4, 2012 in Electronics Addiciton | 0 comments

I Can’t Stop Texting

Children and adults have constant access to drama via reality T.V., Facebook, texting and/or Twitter. A teenager can leave school with a particular understanding of where he stands among his peer group and by 9:00 pm that night, see that position have changed via posts to Facebook about a discussion, action or opinion expressed at school that has subsequently been discussed and analyzed, juried and judged entirely on-line. A tech pause for dinner could mean a change in social status. As adults we feel a similar need to stay “up on things.” We...

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Is it just me… or is my child a pain in the neck?

Posted by on May 3, 2012 in Children and Marital Conflict, Emotionally Focused Therapy | 0 comments

Is it just me… or is my child a pain in the neck?

It may be a bit of both—i.e., you AND your child may be a pain in the neck. A child’s behavior is a function of his own temperament and also his environment. One of the most common reasons parents may seek therapy for their children can be related to what appear to be symptoms of oppositional defiant disorder, or ODD. Instead of normal moodiness, you may believe your child is displaying signs of ODD. Behaviors associated with ODD can include: Negativity Defiance Disobedience Hostility directed toward authority figures Children with ODD may...

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