Hope Springs (even if YOUR spring appears to be part of an old, broken mattress)

Hope Springs (even if YOUR spring appears to be part of an old, broken mattress)

The movie “Hope Springs,” starring Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones may be good, great, or so-so, but the subject matter is directly relatable to my practice. I have witnessed people who have seen it and as a result become motivated toward action in their marriage. The movie is about a middle-aged couple (with grown children) whose marriage has lost its life.  There has not been a traumatic event—death, infidelity, abuse—that has led to the...

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My Kid is Being Bullied

My Kid is Being Bullied

There is perhaps no worse feeling for a parent than the feeling that you are unable to protect your child. We expect school to be a place where our child is supported, nurtured, protected and afforded the opportunity to learn and grow. So if you feel your child is being bullied at school, you may feel violated on behalf of your child’s rights and your own expectations. Your immediate response may be outrage and anger, which is of course a...

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Stonewalling, a.k.a. The Silent Treatment: What’s going on?

Stonewalling, a.k.a. The Silent Treatment:  What’s going on?

When acute or chronic negativity is present in a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person, usually the husband, to start stonewalling. The person stonewalling may avoid eye contact, focus on something outside the discussion (like a computer, newspaper, project), refuse to talk,  or leave the room. Stonewalling is also known as ‘the silent treatment.’ Says John P. Gottman, PhD, “The stonewaller is really trying to calm down and not...

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